Okay, maybe not…
But I am seriously at the end of the rope with A. His behaviour is becoming intolerable. I don’t even want to admit it, but yesterday I spanked him for the first time ever.
Over the past few months he has been acting out more, becoming more aggressive towards his brother, talking back and yelling at husband and I more often, and blatantly refusing to do what we ask him to do. The scariest part of the whole thing is that he doesn’t seem have any remorse for his actions and he doesn’t seem to care about his punishments. If you ask him why he did something (like hit is brother, or throw a toy at the nanny), he replies by saying “because I wanted to.” When you question him about his side of the story, he usually describes the situation exactly like it happened, in a matter of fact tone of voice, without caring that what he did was wrong.
As an example, yesterday I was out running errands and my Nanny texted me and asked if I could come home right away because A was hurting her and E. When I got home, I asked her for the story. Then I talked to A, and this is what he said:
“I was hitting E. on the head with the [toy broom] and then [nanny] took it away from me. She wouldn’t give it back to me and I was mad at her, so I threw the bowl at her and it broke. Then she told me to go to my room but I didn’t want to so I went in the garage and threw your shoes everywhere then ran onto the road.” But Mommy, can I still go to soccer tonight?”
Seriously, what do you do with that? He refused to listen to me after that, when I told him he had to go to his room. The situation escalated until I finally had no patience left…
How do you deal with a child like that? Should I be concerned, or is this normal 4-year-old behaviour?