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Missing A Blogging Friend

I have many blogging friends.  Like most relationships, blogging relationships wax and wane.  You find out that you have things in common with certain people and you bond over that.  Maybe people aren’t exactly who or what you thought they were.  And that’s okay.  Blogging allows for a different kind of relationship: a long distance relationship, if you will.

I know I am probably a “bad blogging friend”  in general because I often find it difficult to keep up with everyone’s blog.  I do my best to read and at least “like” posts, but I don’t always have time to comment.  For that, I feel bad.  I know relationships go both ways and why would you keep up on my blog if I don’t keep up on yours?

Anyway, in the last little while, a good blogging friend of mine has pulled away.  I know she’s going through a lot right now and while I was there for her, to support her for a while, she still pulled away.  I miss her.  I’m worried about her.  I hope she is okay.

We were pretty good friends…  We moved from being just blog friends to becoming Facebook friends (which says a lot because both of us write our blogs under a “pseudonym” and this required us to reveal our real identities).  We then even progressed further to exchanging phone numbers and texting each other.   There was a time that we contacted each other multiple times a day.  Now we never talk.

As I said, I’m worried about her.  She has gone from blogging at least once a day, to blogging once in the past 2 weeks.  She’s not on Facebook anymore (at least not visibile to me), and she doesn’t reply to my texts.  I was relieved to see her blog recently, because I knew that she is “okay.” I hope she’s pulled away because she needs some space to go through everything she is going through right now.  I really hope she is okay.  I wish I could be there for her, but obviously, she doesn’t need me around.  I get it.  Sometimes you just need certain things or people and you don’t need others.  This blog post is not about how she is no longer in touch with me; it’s about how worried I am about her.  It’s about how I hope that she’ll come back and be everything that she was before… as a blogger and as a friend.

Dearest Blogging Friend, if you’re reading this, I’m sure you know who you are.  I sincerely hope you are doing okay.  I hope you will come back to the blogging world with your usual force and vigour.  I Just want you to know that I do think about you often, I hope that you are doing well and that life and its challenges are not too difficult for you right now.  You’re in my thoughts often because I care about you and I want things to be better for you.  You are a great person, and I’ll be here waiting for you when you “come back.”

8 thoughts on “Missing A Blogging Friend

  1. I wouldn’t take your friends absence, or silence as any kind of proof that she “doesn’t need your around.” Because may it isn’t about that at all. Maybe she’s gotten crazy busy track of the days, maybe she’s going through a “thing” and needs time to herself or maybe its something entirely different. However, you know it isn’t about you, there’s been no rift after all, right? So if I may suggest, just shoot her a text every few days, or poke her of FB to let her know you’re thinking of her, missing her and you’ll wait for her return. That way, if she is going through something that you can’t help her with (even if you know you can) at least she knows you’re steady and remain friends regardless.

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    1. Rose! I haven’t seen you in a while!
      I know she’s going through a thing right now, and I don’t take it personally that she doesn’t keep in touch; I just miss her and I hope she’s okay. I wish I could be there for her, but I understand why she doesn’t need me.

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      1. Yes, I’ve been away for some time. Or I read posts just haven’t posted anything Anyway, again you said she doesn’t need you, I just don’t think that’s it Whatever she’s going through, perhaps she doesn’t realize that people actually can help sometimes and she’s dealing with it solo, whatever it is. Like I said before, I think, shoot her a text, email, a card etc., for a while to let her know you’re still around. She might surface again and then maybe you’ll get an explanation.

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