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Dinner for One

Dinner for One

Have you ever gone to eat at a restaurant alone?

I never have, until tonight, that is…

I’ve been to fast-food places alone on multiple occasions, but that’s a little different.  I’m talking about a real, sit down, a-la-carte, type restaurant.  It was an interesting experience.  I felt like I stuck out like a sore thumb, like everyone was looking at me and wondering why “that poor woman” is eating out at a restaurant all alone.  And while the food was good, it felt like a little of a disappointment.  I finally realized that there is an immense amount of truth behind the idea that eating is very much a social activity: having no one to share my meal time with made it much less of an enjoyable experience.

I’m sure I really didn’t stick out like a sore thumb and it was just a reflection of my own insecurities.  I was hoping for a talkative server just so I could justify to them why I was eating out alone: “I’m from out of town and I’m here for work… I don’t really know anyone…”  At least telling one person would have made me feel a little less awkward.

I guess I better get used to the feeling of eating out alone, seeing as how I still have about a week of dinners to get through!  Luckily I have at least 2 upcoming dinners planned with other people: Friday night I am meeting with some of my classmates who are also in this same city doing electives, and on Saturday my sister is driving up from where she lives (about 3 hours away) to do some shopping, gossiping, and other “sisterly” stuff.  It will be great!  Hopefully those adventures will get my mind off of how much I am missing my boys.

But that’s a whole other thing to talk about.  A whole blog topic on its own.  It’s hard to think about and I’m not even half way done my elective.  I’m worried if I think too much about how much I am missing them, it will only get worse.  For now I will just continue to silently lament the fact that I have 7 more nights of eating dinner alone.

8 thoughts on “Dinner for One

  1. I avoid eating out alone if I possibly can, but many people have to do it. Business people on business trips often end up alone at dinner, and I’m sure most people are aware of that, but it’s boring. I usually try to buy something healthy that I can eat in my room while watching TV or reading.


    1. I should really start finding healthier things to eat, but its not as easy as I thought! I’m also trying to keep my mind off of feeling lonely and missing my boys, so I like to get out and about and keep busy!


  2. In Japan it’s actually completely normal to eat alone and since I also travel alone most of the time, I guess I’m used to it now. But here at home in Frankfurt I’d much prefer to put out a Facebook alert and see if anyone else is free.


    1. I think given the culture and circumstances, it is always different. I have no problem going out to McDonalds or something alone. But I would also prefer to ask someone to go out before I’d go out alone. Staying in a Bed and Breakfast, however, there is really no other option for me to eat and I really don’t want to have fast food every night!


  3. I often travel alone, so “dinner for one” at a restaurant is nothing new to me. It’s definitely awkward if you’re not used to it, but once you brush aside the fear of others judging you, it’s kind of nice. I like bringing my book and reading. Then again, I’m all about solo activities haha.

    Good luck with the rest of your elective!


    1. I think I’ve just gotten so used to being with people that it’s hard to be alone. If I’ve ever been away from my husband and kids its always to go to a conference or visit family or something, and usually for 2 nights max… There are always social activities and people to visit with!


  4. I’ve grown to enjoy eating out alone more and more, though I do often feel like I need something to do (iPad, book, magazine, texting) so I’m not just looking around at all the other diners!


    1. Yeah, I found that I spent most of my time on my phone texting people. Nt a big deal, really, but it sure took away from the enjoyment of the meal. Tonight was better though…


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