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A Few Words of Advice, Dear Mother-in-Law…

  1. Starting a fight with your family two days before Christmas is not a good way to ensure you spend Christmas day with the people you treat like shit love.
  2. If your goal is to see your grandchildren as much as possible, insulting their mother is not the way to go about doing so.
  3. Up until now, the only reason I let you see my kids is because your are their Grandmother and my feelings about you shouldn’t get in the way of that.  Sadly, this objective attitude of mine is changing… very quickly.
  4. Sometimes a conflict CAN be the fault of only one person (ahem… YOU).  Everyone does not always have to apologize to you.
  5. If you want to “talk” and sort out a problem, listen to what the other person has to say.  Hanging up the phone when you don’t like what you hear is not an appropriate solution.
  6. I don’t respond well to ultimatums.  I do what I want.  For further clarification, see #9.
  7. There is a reason why YOUR SON does not call you.  And, that reason is not me.
  8. Stop trying to make us take pity on you because you are “alone” this Christmas.  When you treat a man like shit for 30+ years and he decides to leave you, that’s your problem, not ours.  And believe me, you don’t want our pity… It’s not the kind of pity you want.
  9. My husband (who just happens to be your son) and I are adults, we are parents of our own children, and we make decisions based on what is best for us and our kids.  If you don’t like our decisions, that’s fine: You have a right to not like it.  However, keep it to yourself and RESPECT our right to autonomy.
  10. Just in case your feeble mind does not know what autonomy is:

autonomy |ôˈtänəmē|

noun ( pl. autonomies )

(of a country or region) the right or condition of self-government, esp. in a particular sphere
freedom from external control or influence; independence:

P.S. I have TWO children, not just one.  Treating A. like a prince while you don’t even notice E. is not appropriate.  In fact, it is downright insulting to both me and my son.

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